Passport peewees. Some questions. First off: how does someone, from a different culture, just waltz on in,

to a very different culture, expecting to score with one or more daughters from respectable families?  Over there, middle and upper-class parents are choosy with whom their daughters spend time.  In many cultures, daughter-dear may have a good education, and a job which enables her to live in a nice apartment - with money left over for savings, and clothes shopping.  But still, what her parents think, matters to her.

Over there, are independent, successful women, who haven't found husbands; these early-thirties women are getting guff from their moms and dads.  In other words, right or wrong, over there, parents matter; right or wrong, over there, sons and daughters still respect their parents - even if they are difficult.

There is a british man who decided to go live in china.  He does videos about the culture.  Eventually, he had met and married a chinese lady.  He said, his courtship with her didn't happen right away, nor was it brief.  He said chinese people are very family oriented - if the girl's (especially) Dad doesn't like whom his daughter is dating, that relationship will likely end.  Chinese parents want their kids to marry Chinese (from respectable families).  

Which only stands to reason, that cHad/Tyrone-wannabee are going to be in for a rude awakening (in a strange land) where the father of the latest pretty young girl, they're wanting to ...poke, is gonna say NO - simply because Dad knows nothing about the guy's family...oh, wait, cHad/tyrone grew up fatherless.  That's not a good sign - google Daniel Amneus, he did alot of research, back in the 1980s and 90s.

i realize that China isn't the only target peewees set their short-sights upon, there's Korea, the Ukraine, Central and South America - which i understand are more popular ... which is understandable.  Chinese is among the most difficult language to understand; Spanish is easier, since many of our own words are latin-based.  But even so, you can speak another language fluently, but learning the cultural ropes takes time, and careful attention...have to get outside of oneself ... that's a really tall order for passport peewees.

This is not to say that an american man living abroad, won't find a wife in the nation in which he is residing.  One of the deacons, over at the church, was in Korea, where he married a young Korean lady.  Thing is: you have to have your stuff together to, successfully, make it happen.  In short, if you're a self-centered flop here in the US, 12k miles isn't going to change that, anytime soon.