If a person (especially a woman) coming out of a toxic...yeah, toxic relationship had of read that email...

suffice to say, the message was very dismissing - complete with "narcissism" is a word "thrown around."  (Oh, forgetabout the experts who intelligently guess, per stastics and such, that nearly one out of 20 people have, like no compassion for other people.) Also, in the email, was implied, how women, especially, buy into hollywood - ya know, like us women are nothing, but a bunch of numbskulls. Anyway, hate to think of that email being read by someone who actually had endured, for YEARS - not just two or three (but that's more than enough, thankyouverykindly) of mental/financial/various other forms of manipulation.  Well, we know the drill:  that email could really bring a recipient of (long term) abuse way, way down.  And ya wonder why Carol walked, why Peeps did also?

Here's the deal.  And dear reader, bet you won't be one bit surprised.  Eeeyep, the email came from a churchman.  What burns me up is:  abuse recipients, wanting to get free of peewee's ongoing drama, get far more compassion/validation from among the pagans, than from the church - what is wrong with that picture! The email, is just one more bit of proof.

Frankly, if i didn't believe the Bible, and fear the Lord, His reality, His terms, i'd hot foot it oudda church so fast, windows would rattle - and wouldn't look back, either.

It was like that passage in Matthew 23:13, where the Lord Jesus was saying how pharisees crowd around the narrow gate, and won't let people through, and won't go in themselves.

No, i don't believe the churchman is a pharisee.  What i do believe is:  he, like most church people don't have a clue as to how subtle evil truely is.  Many church people live/d sheltered lives - many never grew up around mean drunks/horribly lazy, whiney family member/s; never lived in filthy/unsafe (disgusting excuses for) homes.  Sort of ongoing sheet, will mess up even strong minds.  Many church people associate wicked, with just regular bar folks...going to parties, telling lewd jokes, smoking some weed, listening to rock music, sleeping with their boyfriend or girlfriend.  Ya know  just regular folks - folks, with enough of the Lord's common grace in them, that they know bullying anyone is very wrong, and even unsaved them, when they fall into that nastiness, don't like themselves for it, and don't excuse themselves for it, either.  

Uhm, was unsaved for most of my mid-60s years - so, haven't forgotten, still know how it feels.

"But woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites!  for ye shut up the kingdom of heaven against men : for ye neither go in yourselves, neither suffer ye them that are entering to go in."  Matthew 23:13