Sounds like "growing in grace." Over at Lori Anderson's "Transformed Wife Blog" is an article from Debi Pearl.

"third woe (the rules have changed" is on my sidebar.   She has noticed changes over the past 20-some years.  When she started her ministry (not preaching from the pulpit, just writing articles/books that people can choose to read - or not read) her focus was more about wives getting fussy over husbands leaving their dirty socks in the livingroom.  But she has noted, marital conflicts are going way beyond the normal livingroom waste basket not having been emptied or toothpaste globs left in the powder-room sink.