www.babyboomster.com wrote a terrific article, about older womanhood. And it's okay to be

unattached - and better to want to keep it that way.  Having read several of Rebecca's posts, she is brave (YES, BRAVE) enough to be transparent - faking it is for manipulative cowards; in the past, self-centered people (i.e., manipulative freaking cowards - no two ways about it) had intruded in upon her life.  What she said about that experience was priceless - seriously.  When nosey people (more freaking manipulators) tell women that, oh they should just leave, Rebecca tells it, realistically, and with compassion, "it's complicated."   

And it's really too bad that, among way too many church(Ian) women, you're likely to, instead, get nosey "advice," (yep, manipulators, they're everywhere) and not one teaspoon of what you really need: an empathetic, a discreet "it's complicated."